My Big Breakup

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I'm officially breaking up with my addiction to success. I'm cutting the chords!

My whole life I've been taught that if I don't have success in mind or if I'm not doing the things that make me successful, then I would surely fail and be broke.

It's become an internal obsession, a warped perception of life, and pursuit of insatiable goals that translates into caring about how many followers I get, how much money I make, judging how "worthy" I am.

And nearly every platform I'm on and nearly every (well-meaning) community I belong to feeds into this hunger to feel SPECIAL and successful, as if it's the answer to everything.

I remember reading an article in The Atlantic that said if you saw a book titled:

“The Relentless Pursuit of Booze.”

You would probably think that it's the story of a depressed, struggling alcoholic. But a book titled: “The Relentless Pursuit of Success.”

This would probably be a NY Times bestseller. You would think it's an inspiring journey of someone who found fame and fortune. But really it's about addiction and I've struggled with this for a while.

Because I'm a compassionate capitalist at heart. :)

I'm pro "freedom to do as you choose" (as long as it doesn't hurt anyone) and I absolutely love the pursuit of dreams.

I’m an immigrant and a serial entrepreneur and absolutely stand for people striving for great things.

HOWEVER, I can no longer ignore the monster that it creates.

I built my business to help others, but it's never enough. The drive to make more money and the constant pressure to do more, to be more, to charge more, to keep up… This is not a monster I want to feed any longer.

I don't need this constant drive to motivate me. It's damaging, exhausting and BORING.

I'm not blaming society or social media or the nature of the "high-ticket" personal development industry. Blame is a distraction from not taking personal responsibility.

I'm choosing to take ownership of my personal sense of worth, my creative freedom and choosing how I want to lead my business and my life.

I still intend on being profitable (hello mortgage!) and creating mind-blowing work though, but from a place BEING vs. striving.

You’re probably asking: WTF does this even mean?!

This means I'm just going to let go of all the things I do because I think it makes me money.

I'm letting go of all the false idols and strategies and metrics of success in my industry.

I'm just going to do the things that inspire me, that I find interesting, and important.

I'm going to focus on BEING the qualities that I want to see more of in the world.

I'm opening my heart to embrace the unknown versus using my brain to try and figure everything out.

Today, I feel so FREE! :)

Xoxo,

Anna